Hi friends. So I just read a People magazine interview out today with Allison Williams. She recently got married to Alexander Dreymon. They met on the set of the 2020 movie 'Horizon Line'. She says that by the time she decided to start dating him she had seen many different sides of him; grumpy, hungry and exhausted. She says seeing him at 4am after and 18hour shooting day gave her valuable knowledge about his character.
Made me wonder what your boundaries are (or not) around on-set dating. Do you think it's ok or best to keep things entirely professional? And is it really possible to get a good sense of someone on-set or is there a possibility we are falling for the 'fantasy' of the person aka their film character rather than the real person?
Personally i have never had to make that decision about whether an on-set relationship should develop into more however I have found myself falling for (in an unrequited way) an acting peer in a previous training where it was definitely the case that I was swept along by the storyline we were acting out. Let's just say i came back down to earth with a bump after the training ended and we went our separate ways.
Here is the article
https://people.com/allison-williams-shares-complexities-of-falling-in-lo...
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Hi, Alexandra Stevens. I think on-set dating and dating in other areas of the industry are ok if they don't get in the way of projects.
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Honestly... I would prefer to keep things strictly professional. There used to be a saying "don't mix business and pleasure". But ultimately it comes down to the individuals to decide.
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I don't know that I could have a strict rule Alexandra Stevens It is easy to get swept away when working on a project. Especially in the theater because you form such a close bound and if you have an intimate scene together, it is easy for real feelings to develop. I think that's why there are so many onset romances. Those romances also tend to fizzle out after filming wraps. I think I would wait until after the project is over and see what develops then. I would want to make sure the feelings are real and not a result of working together. It's a work hazard for actors to develop a crush on your scene partner, since the feelings towards the character are real, and we mistake them for feelings for the actor.
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Tony Fisher makes sense to not mix to keep things clear and focussed on the work
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Suzanne Bronson yes wise words. Definitely learned that from my training experience, see how things filter out after the working together has ended
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I would try to keep things professional, just my opinion.
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That’s such a thoughtful question , Alexandra Stevens, and one that hits close to home for so many actors. The line between performance and personal emotion can get blurry, especially when you’re building chemistry, trust, and vulnerability on set or in training. Everyone’s boundaries look a little different, but what matters most is awareness and communication. Knowing where your emotional limits are, and having the self-awareness to pause before crossing them, can make all the difference.
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Well, that’s funny how you say that me considering the industry I worked in which is in the adult industry. Mostly all producers and directors strongly would agree with me that keeping it strictly professional nothing on setsoffset should be an automatically rather it’s not on an adult film or somewhere else.. having a relationship on site can ultimately cause problems and other altercations that have happened. Most of the producer, & directors that I worked with do not accept a boyfriend or girlfriends on site.. They won’t work with couples but that’s my side of the industry the other side I can’t tell you, but with my experience absolutely not I couldn’t
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Crystal Rollen that's interesting to hear your perspective from having had experience in the adult industry. I'm not familiar at all with that aspect of the business. It certainly makes sense not to allow actors to become couples. The stakes are probably even higher than in that type of scenario.
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Ashley Renee Smith and yours is such a thoughtful answer. Absolutely it is about awareness and communication, as you say rather than assuming.
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there are literally BILLIONS of other people in the world that you can date and not have it effect your current job or any future jobs, so I chose the, "don't sh*t where you eat" mindset lol