This week, I’ve been challenging myself to try new ways of reaching potential collaborators.
I had to be honest with myself: I can’t keep doing the same things over and over again and expect different results. That’s not growth, it’s just repetition. Sometimes the work isn’t about pushing harder, it’s about adjusting your approach and staying aware of how people’s expectations, interests, and communication styles are constantly shifting.
What works when approaching one person isn’t necessarily going to work for another. And if we’re not taking the time to evolve how we reach out to someone we genuinely want to connect with, then we’re not really building relationships in a way that leaves a lasting impression.
One of the questions I hear often on Stage 32 is:
“Why can’t I send the same DM or comment to multiple people? Copying and pasting makes it faster to share my project.”
I completely understand the impulse. We’re all busy. Rewriting the same information over and over again can feel inefficient. But this isn’t really about efficiency, it’s about intention.
Copying and pasting the same message to dozens of people, or dropping the same pitch across multiple unrelated threads, is spam. It’s no different than a bot blasting messages into the void, and that’s not how you want to be perceived by potential collaborators, partners, or buyers.
If you value someone, your approach should reflect that.
Your project details don’t change, and it’s perfectly reasonable to have a clean, concise version of that information ready when the time is right. The part that should change is everything around it. Your opening. Your tone. Your curiosity.
Engage with people as people first. Ask about their experiences. Ask what they’re working on. Take time to understand what excites them creatively before you ever talk about yourself. Invite them for a virtual coffee with no agenda other than conversation. Even high-level professionals will often make time for that when they feel respected and genuinely seen.
This kind of approach takes more effort, but it builds something real. It shows that you’re not just looking for what someone can do for you, but that you’re interested in who they are.
For me, this week’s growth has been about pausing, re-evaluating, and asking myself:
How can I approach this connection with more intention, more openness, and more respect?
What’s one way you’ve adjusted your outreach or networking approach to build more authentic creative relationships? Or, what’s something you want to try differently moving forward?
Share what’s helping you grow, or how you're challenging yourself. You never know who might need to hear it.
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It is self serving to say this but I wonder why long term committed relationship stories that demonstrate how people can stand the test of time aren't considered 'rom-com'. Although the premise of my...
Expand commentIt is self serving to say this but I wonder why long term committed relationship stories that demonstrate how people can stand the test of time aren't considered 'rom-com'. Although the premise of my project Dixie Dynamite is predicated on an out there premise it ultimately is a love story of 2 mid 50's that have been together 30+ years, weathered the storm of life, personal mistakes and failings and kids and are still in love decades later. I've actually had near universal acclaim and applause from pitches that the main characters are actually 'in-love' with one another rather than 'putting up' with one another but these types of stories don't see a lot of screen time in my experience.
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Great news and great work Geoffroy Faugerolas @Stage32. Epic!
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I really need to cook up more romcom ideas lol
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Darrell Pennington,
Because romantic comedy is a genre in which a simple, sweet young girl seduces a confirmed bachelor, a handsome successful man, to start a serious relationship.
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Haha Arthur Charpentier it's not always easy to tell but I am sensing a bit of well placed sarcasm in your reply but it is a well made point I suppose. Perhaps it is a well defined toolbox that must b...
Expand commentHaha Arthur Charpentier it's not always easy to tell but I am sensing a bit of well placed sarcasm in your reply but it is a well made point I suppose. Perhaps it is a well defined toolbox that must be drawn from in order to qulify as a 'romcom'....I need to create a snappy phrase that defines the romance and comedy stylings of a mature and complex relationship. Silver Shenanigans perhaps.......