We pour our hearts and souls into the scripts we write, our creative work, spending hours and hours alone looking at a keyboard and words on a screen, wondering what to write next. We start asking ourselves if our work is good enough. Then, the floodgates open. What if no one buys my project? What if I only have one script in me? Then, you think the unsayable, "I hate my script." If this is you, you are not alone, my creative friend. Rejection, writer's block, and self-doubt can really take a toll on anyone's creative journey.
The seemingly obvious encouragement is to power through these troubling times with the Creative Drive Trifecta: motivation, determination, and action. Good advice. However, there is one more key component -- love. Love for storytelling, love for the creative process, and yes, love for yourself as an artist. Why love? Because it is the emotional glue that will keep you going. When your work is getting rejected, when you think you will never write again, or when you are in a dark creative tunnel. Know that you can always tap into your love for writing to get back on track. Keep reading to find out how.
At the core of every creative endeavor is love. I write about this in my book, “Take a Shot at Happiness: How to Write, Direct & Produce the Life You Want.” It is love for your characters, love for your audience, and love for putting together the words that bring your story to life. You are in a creative flow when you are aligned with that love. Yet when that flow gets derailed, love can seem distant, replaced by frustration or doubt -- this is when you need to reconnect with that original passion.
When this happens, use it as an opportunity to reflect on why you started writing in the first place. What drives you to create stories? What excites you about the worlds you build or the characters you give life to? Use these questions to inspire you to return to your keyboard.
Love is not just a feeling. Research in positive psychology shows that emotions like love and joy can boost cognitive flexibility, essential for problem-solving and creative thinking. When you are in a positive emotional state, your brain releases dopamine, which increases motivation and focus, making it easier to generate new ideas and work through challenges.
Neuroscientists also tell us that love engages the brain's reward system, reinforcing behaviors that lead to fulfillment and creativity. When you focus on what you love about your work, you activate the same neural pathways that bring joy and excitement to other areas of your life -- this means that nurturing love for your creative process is not only emotionally rewarding -- it is biologically beneficial, too.
Rejection is one of the unfortunate realities in our industry. When you receive endless pages of script notes, your project gets a pass, or even harder, canceled; it can feel deeply personal. Yet, what if you reframed rejection as an opportunity to deepen your love for the process? Okay, you might be thinking, "Yeah, right." Hear me out. Try considering every "No" as a stepping stone to a better "Yes" -- a better situation with a bigger budget, more creative freedom, or better distribution. Instead of wallowing in despair, consider how each setback can teach you something new.
Ask: "What can I learn from this?" Use these "tough love" moments as a chance to refine your craft. When you approach your work from a place of love, rejection becomes less about failure and more about growth.
"Failure is another stepping stone to greatness." – Oprah Winfrey
Writer's block is one of the most frustrating challenges for any writer. It can feel like the words have stopped streaming, ideas are on hiatus, and your passion just got canceled. I am telling you, love is the antidote to getting a creative green light -- this has happened over and over in my work. When I am not feeling good about my writing or the progress of a project, I apply the soothing balm of love and feel infinitely better. That does not mean my situation has changed. It does mean my attitude toward it has changed.
To reignite your creativity, try an exercise in gratitude. Sit down and write about what you love about writing. Maybe it is the thrill of a new idea, the satisfaction of finishing a scene, or the joy of losing yourself in a character's voice. Focus on what you love about writing and see what happens. Sometimes, writer's block just means that you need to reconnect with your passion.
"You have to really love what you do to get up every day and work this hard." – George Clooney
One of the toughest parts about being creative is dealing with our pesky inner critic, who torments us like that lone mosquito in your room late at night when you are trying to sleep. You are bothered with feelings like your ideas are not good enough or that you are not reaching your full writing potential. Swat that mosquito away during these moments by showing a little self-compassion. It can go miles. Love is not just for your work -- it is for you, too.
If you find yourself struggling with self-doubt, take a moment to acknowledge your efforts. Make a list of all the good work you have accomplished. It will inspire confidence and anchor it in your brain. Know that every word you write is part of a more extraordinary creative journey. Be patient with yourself, just as you would be with a close friend. Practicing self-compassion allows you to stay emotionally resilient and maintain your love for storytelling, even when the going gets tough.
"Nobody can play a role quite like you can. Embrace who you are." – Viola Davis
While love is a powerful ally, it helps to have some scaffolding around it by creating routines to nurture and allow a steady flow of creativity. Set aside time each day for writing, even if it is just an hour. I like to work in 90-minute sessions. It gives me enough time to get something significant done. After this amount of time, your mind tends to fatigue, and you are not as effective. So, take a break and come back refreshed. Protect and honor this time like you would a really important appointment on your calendar.
Alongside your writing routine, consider practices that support your creative energy. Journal, meditate, watch films that inspire you. When you create a regular practice of showing up for your work, love for it flourishes.
"I never dreamed about success; I worked for it." – Estee Lauder
Creativity does not exist in a vacuum. Finding others who share your love for storytelling can help sustain your motivation, inspire new ideas, and keep you disciplined. Collaborating with like-minded creatives allows you to build connections, gain fresh perspectives, and even discover new aspects of your work to love through their eyes.
Consider reaching out to fellow writers here at Stage32. Join a writing group, find a writing partner to exchange feedback with, and surround yourself with a community of passionate creatives. Doing this will reinforce your love for the process and keep you accountable.
"I think one of the greatest gifts you can give is your collaboration." – Frank Gehry
One of the best ways to develop or recharge your love for the creative process is to celebrate progress, no matter how seemingly small. It all matters. Give yourself credit each time you finish a draft, develop a new character, or brainstorm an original idea. Recognizing small achievements reinforces the joy and satisfaction you get from storytelling, making it easier to stay motivated. And know that your love for your craft impacts more than just your work. It touches the lives of others by creating stories that resonate, inspire, and transform.
"If your dream only includes you, it's too small." – Ava DuVernay
Love drives creativity. It keeps you going through rejection, writer's block, and self-doubt. By staying connected to your passion and nurturing your love for storytelling, you can overcome the challenges of being a writer in our industry.
So, take a moment right now to ask: Are you still in love with your work? If the answer is yes, keep going. If the answer is no, reconnect with that love and let it guide you on your creative journey.
"Love. Fall in love and stay in love. Write only what you love, and love what you write. The key word is love." – Ray Bradbury
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